I Believe – Part One


It’s been a while since I’ve last written, so this post may be a bit longer than others…

In January, while on holiday in Peru, my husband and I received word that our 26 year-old daughter had been in a head-on car accident, and had been airlifted to hospital.  After my initial shock wore off, and we had scrambled to get more information, I went to our room and started sending Reiki right away.

But I need to backtrack a bit….

I had a feeling that our trip to Peru would hold some surprises for me.  Somehow I knew that there would be some valuable insights and lessons awaiting me.  Little did I know it would start with our flight down.

Just before midnight, I heard two announcements on the plane, asking for any doctors or nurses to make themselves known to the flight staff.  After the third announcement asked for anyone with any medical training to come forward, I knew I had to go.  I explained to a flight attendant that I was a Reiki practitioner, and she took me up to the front of the plane, right outside the cockpit.  There sat a young mother with her 20-month old son, on the floor.  The boy was drooling and feverish, despite getting medication from his mother.  I offered Reiki as a way to help calm the child (and mother), and sat with them, while explaining what Reiki was (in a mix of English and Spanish). The little one slowly started to settle down, and at one point, his mother looked at me with a shy smile and said , “I can feel something…here…” and she pointed to her heart.  After 45 minutes, the boy fell asleep and ended up sleeping until our plane landed two hours later.  (The medication did keep his temperature from rising further and we agreed that his condition was probably brought on by teething.)  His mother and I hugged, and we both had tears in our eyes from sharing such a beautiful experience together.

When I returned to my seat, my husband woke up and I told him what had happened.  I could tell he was proud of me for offering my help.  As I thought about it, I realized that this was a “test” of sorts for me, to see if I was truly committed to sharing Reiki with everyone.  I wasn’t sure what the flight crew would think, or if the mother would allow me to help, but all I focused on was that little boy.  I opened my heart to him, and allowed the healing love that I was channelling to help soothe him.  And when I did,  I knew in my heart that this is my path.

Six days later, our daughter had her accident.  A vehicle in an oncoming lane crossed over to her side and hit her car.   She lost consciousness, received multiple cuts and bruises to her head and upper body, her ankle was badly sprained and her hip was dislocated.  I knew none of these details before I started sending distance Reiki to her, and yet, I instinctively felt the need to focus on her head and left side.  By channelling Reiki to send to her, I felt some calm return to my panicked and worried self.

I then reached out to all my lightworker friends and to family, asking them to start sending their prayers and Reiki to Natalie. Fortunately, I also had my essential oils with me, and used them to help keep me grounded and as calm as was possible under the circumstances.

fear vs love

Surgery two days later repaired her hip, with a metal plate and screws holding her shattered bones together in her hip.  (Weeks later, the surgeon and her physiotherapist have predicted a full recovery, and she will be able to walk, return to work, and most of all, ride and train her beloved horses.  In the meanwhile, there was – and still is – a lot of healing to take place.)

As parents, it was an extremely frightening and stressful experience for us, made all the worse by being so far away from our daughter.  When it became clear that she would be in the hospital for a week, we knew we had to cut our holiday short and get back as soon as possible.  There were many shared tears and feelings of helplessness, but Ralph and I were consoled by the fact that so many of our friends and family had rallied to be by Natalie’s side.  We couldn’t be there, but she was not alone.  We will be forever grateful for those who drove to the hospital (some from many hours away), and to her boyfriend, who flew in from Nova Scotia to be with her for the weekend, after her surgery.  When we arrived back in Canada, we saw all the cards and flowers in her room.  We heard the stories of those who had advocated on her behalf when she was in so much pain and could not speak for herself.  We found out how fortunate she was to still be alive.


Once I could be with Natalie, she received Reiki daily.  I even brought my oils to the hospital and used them.  The nurses did not question me when they saw me giving her Reiki, so I explained that it was an important part of her healing.  Physical wounds needed to be repaired, as well as her emotional ones.  The intense trauma she suffered has left her unable to put any weight on her left leg for three months, so the healing has been slow, but steady. (At this point, she has just over three weeks to go…)

12734245_986766031389410_7591137534669086769_nI’ve realized how much this whole experience has changed us, and the lessons it has provided.  Our daughter has seen the amazing love her family and friends have for her, and is learning the frustrating lesson of patience.  Being so inactive for three months has been a huge challenge.  But she knows that she can do it, and that she must wait for everything to heal properly.  We are all so proud of her, and impressed with her courage, her determination and inner strength.  She has been simply amazing.

I have learned to trust.  To worry less.  To give up fear and accept love.  To make sure that before helping others to heal, I work on healing and clearing myself.

And I will always be grateful…

How am I Doing…Today?

Every morning, before I go to work at the farm, I spend some time in my healing room, preparing myself for the day.  Ideally, I would do this right after rising out of bed, but the reality is I enjoy my sleep, and enjoy making a healthy breakfast for my family.  Once they’re off, it’s quiet and I can take as much time as I want, without feeling rushed.

One of the first things I do is just “check in” with myself….how am I feeling today?  Each of the five Reiki precepts is prefaced with “Just for today”.  Every day is different – the euphoria we may have been enjoying yesterday may dissipate, the anxiety about something may have increased.  How am I feeling today, right now?

I take some deep, cleansing breaths, place my hands in Gassho position (Namaste gesture), and allow myself to feel grounded and connected to the Earth.  If my mind starts wandering to what I need to get done at the farm, or what items to add to my grocery shopping list, I have a few “tools”.  Visualizing roots growing from my feet, down into the ground, works great.  So does holding a crystal such as black tourmaline or obsidian.  And aromatherapy using a grounding blend, or pure Frankincense also does the trick beautifully.  (I don’t usually have to do anything but slow my breathing and focus, but these tools do help!)


I then recite the precepts, because they remind me of how I can best serve myself and others.

IMG_1316I have a beautiful singing bowl, which I purchased last winter.  It sits on my windowsill, and I often like to take it in my hands to play for a few minutes.  I discovered that when I have not done a good job of calming my mind and spirit, the bowl reflects this turmoil, and does not tone very loudly – if at all.  However, when I feel “connected”, peaceful and whole….the song fills the whole room!  Talk about bio-feedback!

Self-Reiki is also an important part of my daily practice.  At this point in my day, I will use Reiki to clear each of my chakras, to cleanse my healing room (and other rooms, if necessary).  I will do a short meditation and prayer.  When I am finished, I feel peaceful, grounded….and ready to take on anything I encounter in the day.

Tomorrow may well be a whole other story.  That’s okay.  I only need to focus on Today.

Namaste my friends!


Waking up this morning, I smile,
Twenty four brand new hours are before me.
I vow to live fully in each moment
and to look at all beings with eyes of compassion.  Thich Nhat Hanh















Looking After Ourselves

Recently, a friend of mine asked me to write a blog about self-care and some tips about maximizing our Reiki potential.

Mikao Usui, founder of Reiki

First of all, I do not profess to be a faultless practitioner, lol!  But I try, on a daily basis, to do my best.  And it all starts with the five Reiki precepts.  I find that when I do even a quick grounding meditation in the morning and repeat these precepts, it sets the tone for my day.  By reminding myself to not anger, not worry, to be grateful, do my best, and to be kind, I am pre-programming my day and reinforcing these values in my heart.

Secondly, while I am in my treatment room (where I like to do this practice), I will give myself some Reiki.  Sometimes, it is a quick CKR over each of my chakras.  Other times, I will place my hands over my heart, open up to the beautiful Reiki energy and allow it to fill me up.  Pamela Miles often says that it doesn’t matter for how long you give yourself Reiki.  It is more important that you do, on a daily basis.  (If my day is off to a busy start, I may not have a chance for self-Reiki, so I will wait until bedtime and give myself some Reiki before going to sleep.)

Practise, practise, practise!

As with many things we learn to do in life, practice can be very helpful in strengthening our Reiki flow.  Because Reiki courses through us as we give treatments, the very act of giving Reiki to others benefits us as well, by unblocking our own energy systems.  Better yet, when we receive full Reiki treatments from others, it ensures that we are at our peak condition to be conduits for others.  I offer all of my students a discount rate for Reiki sessions, to encourage them to come often.


I host 2 shares monthly, and attend my Reiki teacher’s shares, too.  Not only do I receive Reiki, but a share is often an opportunity to discuss any questions or experiences we may have with others. The shares are open to everyone, whether or not they have studied Reiki with me, or even if they have not yet been attuned to Reiki, but would like to learn more about it.  I also advise my students to make arrangements with each other to share Reiki with each other, either in person, or to practise their distance technique.

Mikao Usui was not looking for a healing modality when he discovered Reiki.  He was on a spiritual journey, and we should often remember this fact about the origins of Reiki.  It is so much more than a healing technique.  It is a way of living, in touch with the Divine within each of us, and connects us to the Source that nourishes us all.  If we remind ourselves of this, it will be easier to leave our egos out of the way, and to just allow this beautiful energy to flow and enrich our mind, body and spirit.